ABORTION!!!!

What is abortion? Abortion is the expulsion or termination of foetus from the womb before it able to survive on its own. A foetus is a human embryo at 8 weeks or more. At 8 weeks (2 months) your baby has umbilical cord, knee joints, brain, eye lids, uterus, cervix and a vagina/penis. That to me sounds like a human hence I feel that abortion is murder.

These are the reasons why people opt for abortion… They abort because the pregnancy is unplanned, finances (means to care for the baby are scarce), they got raped, cheated on husband and scared of husband or partner finding out that the baby is not his, incest, no longer in love with the father of the baby, to spite the father for leaving you pregnant, child out of wedlock, scared of what people are going to say, scared of family, scared of church people etc

To me all these reasons do not justify murder but I empathise with people whose pregnancies are a result of rape or incest, incest in a case where a father, uncle, brother or grandfather rapes you but still killing an innocent child is not an answer, rather just give the baby away. There are options as to what to do with the baby if you are unable to care for it. Giving the child to adoption agencies is one the options.

People think that when you give your child away it means you will never see him/her again. That is not always the case; the relationship you want with your child depends on you. In 2002 statistics of women who could not conceive was 7.3 million, people are desperate for children so killing them is extremely cruel.

Imagine if you abort the only child you could ever have? Can you live with yourself knowing that you have murdered an innocent child? Can you ever make peace with it? Your whole life you are going to be counting and estimating how old your child would have been had you not murdered her/him?

I cannot tell people to not have an abortion because situations and circumstances’ are different, but I can offer this advice to someone who is thinking of having an abortion.

You are not the first person with an unplanned pregnancy and you are not the last, Deciding to murder your unborn baby because you did not plan for it/ you are not sure of the father/you are scared of how your family or society will react or maybe you were raped is not excuse to have an abortion. Taking life is unjustifiable.

Another thing on abortion is backstreet abortion or backdoor abortion. This abortion is abortion that is  performed by persons lacking the necessary skills or an environment lacking minimal medical standards, this kind of abortion is illegal. A lot of women die because of this kind of abortion, it is dangerous and unnecessary. Backyard abortion is performed using wires (usually coat hanger wire) Knitting needles, and many other sharp things in an aim to brake the layer that covers an unborn baby known as “vernix  caseosa”, who knows what else they can prick while trying to brake the venix. The bleeding that takes place when these kinds of abortions are being performed  is enormous and it is not healthy for a human being to lose such amount of blood at once. The environments where these methods are carried out are not hygienic, they are dirty places and the tools are also unsterilized, if they are…then they are most likely to be sterilized using cheap brandy (alcohol). It is believed that 20 million backyard abortions are performed annually and that 69000 deaths and million injuries arise from such behaviours.

People are believed to be going to backyard abortionists because the nurses in hospital ridicule them and sometimes people are scared of bumping into someone that they know. Risking your life, health and being scared of someone who does not even pay your bills is just beyond me.

If anyone decides to terminate their pregnancy, please do so safely. Go to the hospital and have a proper procedure done rather than risking your life at these doggy places.

Abortion is cruelty, if you are thinking of having an abortion please think carefully for life is not replaceable. It might convincingly feel like there is no other alternative but believe me there is, the torment, the guilt and the hurt that you are going to feel after you have realised what you have done is unbearable.

If you decide to do it anyways, then do it safely!

 For those who have done it already then please visit this site for help and how after abortion. www.abortionrecovery.org

here is what your baby looks like at 8 weeks/2 months. its almost human.

 

 

Have a meal in 20 Minutes!

I am a pasta lunatic, I love pasta so much and I never get tired of it!
heres a quick recipe for a nice lite pasta.

1 Red pepper
1 Yellow pepper
1 Onion
200g Baby Marrows
200g Mushrooms
2 tins 175g of tuna
2 full table spoons of Margarine/Butter
1 Packet of pasta (screws)

Preparation time 15-20 minutes

Fry peppers,onion and mushrooms, when it tenders, add baby marrows. Season with your choice of spices(preferably vegie seasoning and steak &chops) and then let it simmer. when everything is tender, remove pot from the stove.

Boil you pasta, add water, one table spoon of salt and 2 table spoons of oil. After 15 minutes or when ready, drain water, rinse and then add one table spoon of oil again on the rinsed pasta.
Mix fried veggies and the pasta
Add the tins of tuna and mix well
 If you like you could add mayonaise or salad dressing of your sauce of preference

Serve and enjoy!

Yho Mrs Madikane has nice dishes mara yho, look at this white dish...its exquisite bt my pasta is niceeeer! lols

 

 

 

 

you have to try this pasta though!!!!

Benefits of drinking Hot/ warm water! please try it... this has been very good to me.

Water is very important for survival. From doctors to dieticians, every expert advices to drink 7-8 glasses of water regularly. While some people prefer cold water, there are many dieters who drink hot or warm water. It is believed that hot or warm water is good for the body as it has many health benefits. Lets brief out the health benefits of drinking hot or warm water.

Health benefits of warm or hot water:

Benefits Of Drinking Hot Water Cleansing and purifying: One of the most important benefits of drinking hot water is, it is effective in cleansing the body. Poor digestion can be easily treated by having a glass of hot water twice a day. Drink a glass of hot water early in the morning. This will flush out toxins from the body and cleanse the system. You can mix hot water with honey or lemon for best results.

Cures constipation: This is a common stomach problem that develops due to water scarcity in the body. The stool deposits in the intestines and reduces the bowel movement. This makes you suffer from constipation where passing out stool is difficult and sometimes extremely painful. Have a glass of hot water empty stomach in the morning to improve bowel movements and cure constipation. Hot or warm water breaks down food particles and passes them out through intestines.

Aids weight loss: Many dieticians ask you to drink a glass of hot water with lemon and honey every day to lose weight. Well the advice is very helpful in shedding extra pounds. Hot water breaks down fat deposits from the body and helps in weight loss. Have a glass of hot or warm water with either lemon or honey or both, after every meal. Lemon has pectin fiber that controls food craving and is ideal for people who are on alkaline diet.

Good for cold and cough: Irritation in the throat due to cough or tonsil can be really painful. One of the health benefits of drinking hot or warm water is, it reduces throat pain, liquifies thick cough and helps it come out easily.

Increases sweating: When you drink a hot beverage, you sweat a lot for sometime. This is because when we drink hot water or any other beverage, the body temperature rises and the water tries to cool down the temperature through sweating. Sweating helps clean the skin cells by taking out excess water and salt from the cells and body.

Improves blood circulation: When you drink hot water, the fat deposits in the body burns and the built up deposits in the nervous system also breaks down. This improves blood circulation in the body and also flushes out harmful toxins.

Reduces body pain: Drinking a glass of hot water with carom seeds is an effective home remedy to cure menstrual cramps. If you have stomach pain, headache or body pain, have a glass of hot water to get instant relief.

Article taken from the internet (yahoo)

Eli liculo likamama ka mama. Zange ndambona kodwa wayesithi umama xa eliculla athi " liculo likamama wam eli, wathi xa enokubhubha zesimkhaphe ngalo, nyani ke samkhapha ngalo" Naye ke umama lowo undizalayo akaseskho...kambe mhlaba ndini uyafihla.

Kubo bonke othixo
akukho onje ngaye
Kuba inceba zakhe
Zimi ngonaphakade

Ezi Ntsizini zethu
Iliso liyabona
Kuba inceba zakhe
Zimi Ngonaphakade

Eli culo ndathi ndisiya enkonzweni ndabe kudala ndilazi, kuba umama wayehlala elicula ngamaxesha amaninzi, kunjalo nje xa lihlatyelelwa ecaweni andilijongi kuba lahlala lihleli entliziyweni yam.

Rest in peace Madzana, soze ndizilibale imfundiso zakho. Namhlanje ndizibiza ibhinqa ngenxa yakho Bhacakazi.

You might be gone in the world but you live in me.

Nditshilo mos ndathili bhinqa, intombi yakwantu ezingcayo! these are the pictures that remind me of who I am, Imvelaphi yam.

 

Utywala besixhosa (umqombothi)

Afrcan beer in the process

 

 

 

 

Amagqirha

(traditional doctors as I prefer to call them otherwise known as witchdoctors)

 

 

 

matshini wothunga wakudala

( Old Sewing machine )

 

 

 

Ipryma <ibizwa njalo ngesXhosa> yho ndandiyimpompa ke lento bethuna, angaphumi umlilo, hayke ndiyi prike

(Prima stove)

 

 

 

ba awzange uyowakha amanzi empompweni, awazi nto. Kudala i mpompo yayibanye engingqini, isitrato sonke sasiwakha khona amanzi. Kwezinye indawo isenziwa ke lonto 

(Getting water from the village tap) 

 

 

 



 

 Isonka sombhako, amaxesha amaninzi senzwa nge Bakpot phandle eziko kdwa ke nangaphakathi endlini uyakwazi usenza ngembiza. Simnandi esenzwe phandle

(Home made Bread)

 

 

 

 

Intloko yegusha, babizwa <Smiley>  owu abamnandi ezweni

 

(Avaal...hope ma spelling is correct) 

 

 

 

 

Esi isidlo sisibiza  Umsophu, andilazi ke igama nge Singesi kdwa ayingomnqgusho (not samp and beans)

 

 

 

 

 Isilingi...ndiyakhumbula kakhle umzala wam endifundisa ukudubula iintaka, ndathi apho ndikwazi khona... 

(ndislibele ke shame ba yintoni ngesi Ngesi) 

 

 

Amagwinya/Amefetshu

(vetkoeks) 

 

 

 



 

Oomama besiXhosa banxibe imibhaco namadaki

(xhosa wear)

 

Amantombazanana bethunani anxibe isiXhosa, Kukho i Cultural day esikolweni

(beautiful Matholengwe sisters)

 

 

To that woman... ... ...! Set yourself free, you are the only one holding yourself prisoner

Have you got a secret that you have been keeping for almost all your life??? Do you feel that for as long as you don’t tell anyone/nobody knows about it, you are safe? Safe from humiliation? Safe from hurting? Safe from being blamed? Safe from being told that you deserve it?

No, no you are not safe. As long as you think about it, as long as it haunts you and as long as you cry yourself to sleep every night, you are not safe but your perpetrator is.

A lot of women give too much power to their perpetrators, they keep quite but inside they are dying of hurt and anger.  On the other hand however while you keeping, the perpetrator could not care less, the aim is on the next prey and by the time they are on the third victim, they have forgotten about you, but with you...their image and the events of the incident are the only things that play on your mind.

 So many misfortunes happen to women almost everyday and every hour.

When I was young, very young... I was almost raped, twice. First incident I was scared to tell because I was scared of what the guy might do to me when he saw me and my dad was not there to fight for me but my cousin brother told me that he was going to tell if I didn’t and he really did, I don’t remember what happened after but the matter was in my fathers’ hands, Second time my mother walked in just when the perpetrator was unbuttoning my trousers, being a single parent and being the only child that my mother ever had, when my mother was done with the man, he was half dead and half alive but more dead than alive.

Both of these incidents, someone has come to my rescue but unfortunately for some women, no one came to their rescue as a result they end up feeling hopeless and believing that they most probably deserved it. That is where you are wrong, you are so wrong... no one deserves that kind of ordeal. By being silent, you are setting your perpetrator free, you are giving him the power and the strength to continue doing the exact thing to many more women.

I know a case where a young girl was raped by an uncle, the girl never told anyone about the horrific experience. Later on in life, the young woman has grown up, gotten married and had children and one of her daughters got raped by the same perpetrator, only then did she open up about what happened to her. You see it took her daughters’ innocence being taken away in the same horrific manner in order for her to speak up. Did she have to wait that long? No, had she spoken sooner, her daughter would never have had to endure what she did.

 I know that if my brother had not told my father about what almost happened to me, maybe I too would never have told. Sometimes victims keep quite because they think and feel that its safer, but it isn’t, it is rather selfish and dangerous not only to thine self but to the next victim and the other.

 Rape is not the only misfortune that women face, some women are forced into prostitution, into abortion, into marriage with older men for money, children... young girls and boys are being molested, there is child pornography etc

Let me tell you this, if you are a woman who has had to endure one of the above or worse, it was not your fault, you did not ask for it nor did you audition for it but keeping quiet about is not helping either.

You feel weak, bruised and defeated. You are not, you are a victor for you have risen above your circumstance, you are still alive, and you did not kill yourself after your incident. A wise person once said “ God gives his toughest battles to his strongest and trusted soldiers” you are stronger than you think and believe it or not God knew that you would make it through. See, its unfortunate that these things happen but since they are happening God wants strong soldiers who are going to strengthen the weaker ones, one person might not be able to speak and strengthen others through their experiences but a few will and I am one of them.

You have kept quiet for a long time and your perpetrator has passed on but what happened still haunts you, do yourself a favour and speak to someone, find help, go for counselling, talk to someone that you trust.

 I pray that people realise that we live in a different era, an era where women are no longer silenced, where woman are protesting to be heard, where if you strike a woman, you strike a rock, where if  you touch one woman, you touch all and they revenge with fury. We have women in high courts sentencing these molesters, rapists and murderers, we have social workers and police women and so many more people to help us fight, and so really, keeping quite is not fair.

Phakama Mfazi, Phakamani Bo sisi, phakamani zintombi nithethe, usana olungakhaliliyo lufela embelekweni. Nceda mna, ndincede omnye sincedaneni... Sisonke singabalwa abahlukumezi

 

 

Proverbs 21 verse 11 reads “ Many are the plans in a mans heart but it is the Lords purpose that prevails”

When I came across this verse on Nokulunga Tsitsi Booi status on Facebook, I froze and I went deep into thoughts. I tried to avoid it but the verse kept playing in my mind. What kept haunting me is the fact that I already have this whole year planned out and the following year but I do not recall consulting God about these plans. Ofcourse I was going to pray later on in the year, when the plans set into motion but that is not how it is supposed to be. 

I realised that I have always wondered and cried when things did not go my way, I would question and even doubt my faith. My first year at University I did not do well, I passed three subject out of five, I have failed my driver’s license five times already and many more other things. I got frustrated because whenever I have to perform, I set my mind into a task and provide my best efforts.

Only when I came across this verse did everything began to make sense. The problem that we make, is that we do not present our plans to God, we plan, we visualise and we get excited about the outcomes however when things do not turn up the way we desire, only then we approach God to ask him how come/why.

 Praying to God on the day that I am getting tested for my driver’s license is not including God in my plans

Praying to God on the day of the exam is not including God on my plans.

Praying and crying to God when the car is rolling and crashing is not including God on your plans

A pastor that visited our school once told us a story, he said “ I was travelling with a certain pastor and we were coming back from a sermon and on the way, the car crashed and started to roll, people were screaming but he remained still and he was astonished by the other preachers who were praying and crying and begging for their lives” we asked him why was he not panicking because it seemed pretty normal for people to pray and beg for their lives in the moment of an accident, he said “ I did not panick because before I left my house I had prayed and asked God for guidance on the road and on the day ahead” we all kept quite because right then we realised how much little faith we had and how we turn up to God at last moments.

 

From now on, I am making God the centre of every plan I have, no matter how big or small.